Women vs Women

I find women to be the harshest critics of other women, but why? Tonight a good friend was telling me about how his buddies girlfriend told him he shouldn’t hang out with ‘someone like me’, and when I asked what that meant, he said ‘someone with tattoos and piercings’.

To start off, this girl doesn’t know me. We’ve never spoke, never met, and the only reason she has any idea of what I look like (vice versa) is because of Facebook. I’ve been friends with this buddy for four years now…she met him a couple months ago. I find it sad that she thinks that how I look defines who I am. This misguided girl clearly has pre-judgemental opinions on everyone with tattoos/piercings. She went on to say I was a ‘satan woman’, which made me laugh, and made her point even more invalid then before. 

I’m just so tired of prejudices on modified people, it gives me such little hope in human kind. I’m not sure if she’s just insecure in who she is, and by putting down a stranger, made herself feel better? If that’s what she needs to do to feel good about herself, then fine. I hope one day she has enough confidence in herself that she can be accepting of all people and not pass such rude judgement on complete strangers.

When I hear about women putting down other women like this, it always bothers me. Women fight for acceptance their whole lives, but then we knock each other down. It just saddens me. It’s not the attack on me personally that gets to me, it’s knowing that there are so many people like her out there doing this to other women. It’s the reminder that the world isn’t forever kind and accepting of everyone that brings me down. A friendly wake up call back into reality, if you will. 

I hope one day she wakes up and realizes that good friends come in many different packages, and is embarrassed for spewing out such hateful garbage. God knows, I’m embarrassed for her. 

Dear Lisa Khoury,

Class has nothing to do with a woman being modified or not. I read your article and I am completely ashamed to share the same gender identity as you. People like you, are what’s holding women back from being seen as equals. All women are given the beauty of the female body to do as they wish, and it is not yours, or anyone else’s place, to say what is or isn’t beautiful. I modify myself because that’s what makes ME feel good. The same as you buy certain clothes, or do certain things because that’s what makes YOU feel good about yourself. If you’re doing certain things to only please someone else, then you are living a very sad life. If I were looking for mass justification from men, I would not be covering my body in beautiful art. Luckily I am confident enough in myself to do as I please and not live in fear of societies poor judgment on modified women. You are degrading, not only to women, but human kind as a whole. To think someone is less than, because of some exterior difference, is not only moronic but extremely immature. I will continue to modify my body with confidence, be a kind and loving human being, and hold my head high with more class then you’ll ever know. You’re attack on such a beautiful form of women will not go unheard or shamed.

Class is how a woman carries herself and treats others, and from what I gather, you do neither of these things well. 

-Samantha McPherson

(In response to: http://www.ubspectrum.com/opinion/why-put-a-bumper-sticker-on-a-ferrari-1.2755789?MMode=true#.TyoMFa6iWKp)